They are focused on their own perceived inadequacies like a laser and can never believe that they have any good points.
They are forever looking to others for approval, asking over and over again for someone to convince them that they aren’t totally worthless. And yet the need to worship one’s partner – to put them on a pedestal, to elevate them to “goddess” status – is another way of objectifying someone and remove their humanity.
Clinginess and supplication isn’t the only way that neediness expresses itself, however.
There’s a recurring thread I’ve seen lately online, whether it’s in the comments here or in a few of the other forae where I lurk: an increasing sense of desperation for a relationship.As we’re running headlong into the holiday season, it’s only natural for the singletons amongst us to look around at all of the happy couples with a certain level of bitterness and envy. As this goes on, you become increasingly bitter and upset, complaining about the “impossible standards” of others while simultaneously trying to meet or those standards because you know that your life will be incomplete until you find that special someone.Not only does it display low emotional intelligence – after all, you’re showing that you are incapable of balancing your emotional needs – but needy behavior is toxic to relationships.Needy people are forever either supplicating to their partners or else becoming so dependent on others that the relationship becomes smothering.When needy people get involved in a romantic relationship, they often have a perpetual feeling as though things are on the cusp of falling apart.
They are always on the look out for the signs that things are going wrong and that the relationship is about to come crashing down all around them; they can’t conceive that their partner values them or their relationship and need resassurance over and over again that wrong all take their toll and quickly turn from annoyance to active resentment.More often than not, they feel that they’re showing how “passionate” or “devoted” they are, not realizing that they’re being dependent and possessive.Similarly, needy people may push for a relationship, getting too serious too quickly; they may want to be exclusive immediately, before they’ve even made it through the second date.They’ll strive to spend every waking moment with their partner if at all possible.If they can’t, they may try to remain in constant contact – calling and texting repeatedly, sending email after email and Perpetuators of this sort of behavior often don’t recognize that they’re being needy.needy that he craves constant validation from other people is bad, but the other extreme – becoming so self-absorbed that you become a virtual sociopath -is equally as unattractive.